CareerMums Q&A on negotiating flexibility

This week,a CareerMums user emailed me with the following question (specific details have been changed to protect privacy):

"I require some assistance to negotiate flexibility when returning to work in a few weeks. I am a Sales Manager and would like to work 3 days in the office, 2 days from home as I am struggling to get childcare for my 5 month old. Any assistance would be appreciated. I would like to send my request in writing to my boss this week to ensure that it is actioned prior to returning to work."

My response was the following:

"Thanks for getting in touch with CareerMums. Your challenge sounds very common!

Importantly, don’t communicate to work that you need to work from home because you don’t have childcare yet for those days. You will have to work that problem out but it is important not to indicate that your child will be at home while you are working. It just doesn’t work.

Instead, dissect your role immediately into the following groups:
• What can be done inside or outside of office hours
• What can be done at work or at home

Also, get a copy of your employer’s flexible work policy. If they don’t have one, refer to the new employment law (Jan 2010) stating that working parents now have the right to request flexibility if their child is under school age. See www.fairwork.gov.au for more information.

This will be the foundation of your business case in line with needing more flexible work arrangements because you are a parent with a young child.

Refer to the following web page for tips and questions to answer in your business case proposal: http://www.careermums.com.au/content/negotiatingflexibility

Mention that you are happy to offer a 3 month trial period to prove that it can work for yourself and the business.

Stick to the facts. Don’t be emotional. You will find child care for those 2 days eventually, and in the meantime, you would have set yourself up to work 2 days from home. It is important to understand that working from home does not negate child care. A sales role implies constant communication with customers and potential customers. If you have a child at your feet demanding attention, it doesn’t look good. The upside is that if you work from home, you can drop your child later to childcare and pick your child up earlier making it an easier day for all of you."

Recruiters - make way for talent!

Unfortunately I spoke to yet another talented and experienced parent who was turned away from one of the large recruitment firms because she had taken time out of the workplace to do a job that is harder than any job going in the workplace - being a parent. The recruiter simply told her that her clients would not be interested because she has not had any recent work experience (she had, but the recruiter just heard 'parent').

In my experience, employers are having huge problems in finding good employees. Flexibility is a common workplace offering these days, and after reviewing this woman's resume, I shook my head in disbelief that they had discarded her without even a telephone discussion.

It reminded me of something I experienced when I was in my 20s - without children. I had gone to Boston USA to work for a start-up. My experience was priceless, however, another large recruitment firm didn't seem to think so. "You haven't had any Australian work experience for over a year so it may be hard to place you." I got up and walked out of that meeting.

The time has come to own the relationship when it comes to recruiters. Start asking recruiters questions like 'Do you know what flexible work means?', 'How many flexible jobs do you have on your books?' and 'If there was a suitable role for me but it was full time, would you submit my resume?'. If the recruiter is not listening to your needs, take your resume elsewhere.

To be confident in asking these questions, you need to be confident in your own abilities, skills and expertise. Be proud of your career to date and your parenting and role, and know what you want your next step to be.

Applying for a new role - having the 'flexibility' conversation

- Know YOUR story - Before having the conversation, be confident in your skills and abilities. Know what you are worth, what you want to do, and know what you are goods at. Employers like motivated and confident candidates.

- Do some research - Google the employer. Find out if they are aflexible employer. Do they have a flexible work policy? Connect with your networks on LinkedIn and Facebook - ask if anyone has had any involvement with the employer. The more information you can gather, the more prepared you will be.

- Always ask - If you see a job advertisement that looks perfect for you but it is full time, always find out if the employer if happy to explore flexible work options. The talent pool is getting smaller and the quality of the applicants may not be strong. If you don't ask you will never know.

- Be upfront - Don't wait to get a job interview before finding out if the employer would consider flexible work options. Be upfront about your requirements so your time and the employer's time are not wasted.

- Work with the right recruiters - If you are enlisting the help of recruiters, make sure you are talking to recruiters who understand your needs - and who undertand what flexibility means. Read our tips on dealing with recruiters.

- Be proactive - if the role is similar to another role you previously worked flexibly in, prepare a business case as part of your application.

- At the interview - Treat the interview process as a 360 degree interview. In other words, you are interviewing them just as much as they are interviewing you. You are at a stage in your career where you have accrued experience and expertise. Remember that.

It must be acknowledged - Prime Minister Gillard

Congratulations to Julia Gillard on becoming the first female Prime Minister of Australia. Put politics aside and celebrate a wonderful milestone in our country's history. Talk to your children about the importance of this occasion and reinforce gender equality.

Read Natasha Stott Despoja's article on 'Are we ready for Julia?'
http://www.businessspectator.com.au/bs.nsf/Article/Are-we-ready-for-Julia-pd20100624-6PVQL?OpenDocument&src=spb

Start owning the role of being a parent

Raising and caring for the future of Australia can attract strange comments and inuendo at times. Apparently we don't take work seriously anymore, we shouldn't be working now because we have children, and while at home we are having coffee with friends all day.

What a load of crap. Personally, I have never worked harder and been more tired in my life but I am happy. We need to start changing these perceptions and turning them on their head. This means communicating to people around you about how much you do in your day (both at work and at home).

Stop accepting pathetic comments about it being your choice to be a parent... and the one about it being unfair that tax payers have to foot the bill for childcare subsidies and a paid parental leave scheme. What these people will contribute in tax is minimal compared to what you will pay to raise a child (at least $1 million I believe!). In monetary terms, non-parents are contributing to a blue-chip investment (your children) who will eventually be paying taxes towards their health and retirement funds.

So stop apologising for leaving on time to be with your children. Stop accepting more junior roles because you are now a parent. Stop saying that you do nothing because you are a stay-at-home parent. Take pride in how much you can achieve in your day, including raising responsible and well adjusted little human beings. And take time out for yourself.

Returning to work after 10 years

Louise's story is inspiring. After 10 years caring for her 2 children, Louise took on another challenge - returning to work. Eventually, she found a great role and wishes she returned years ago.

"I am currently working for a building inspection company. I am based in the office managing the diary and liaising with owners & tenants 3 days a week. For the past 10 years I have been at home ( my children are 10 & 7 years ).

It was always the plan to return to work when the youngest started school. Easier said than done! I suddenly realised, that in the blink of an eye, it was 20 years since I had applied for a job. Writing an application & dropping it in the mailbox had now been replaced by technology. There was no human contact – everything was done by e-mail & online IQ tests. I was totally lost. My skills were less than none, my self confidence was below zero. Throughout 2009 I did my best to answer ads but to no avail.

Then one day I accidently met a woman around my age who runs her own business. She happened to be looking for a “part-timer” & asked if I was interested. Of course I was, but had to admit my skill level was extremely low. She offered me a casual position for 6 months. I have been there since February and I can’t believe how much I have learnt. I am thoroughly enjoying it & my confidence is rising by the day. It also works for my children as they can walk home from school & I am there 20 minutes later.

I think we mothers bring an abundance of attributes to the workplace - as we all know raising children is the most demanding job ever. I can honestly say I am more focused, more organised & more accepting than ever & that’s a bonus for any employer. I am delighted to be part of the work force again & my children feel the same. Now I am like “everyone else’s Mum”. I wish I had done years ago."

CareerMums Webinars

CareerMums understands the challenges you face as a working parent. We are dedicated to helping mums return to the workforce with confidence. How do you start building that confidence? With the best information.

This week, we have 2 webinars:

Webinar 1: Adjusting to motherhood

Time: 8.00pm-9.00pm | Date: Wednesday 9 June 2010 | Free | Email: info@careermums.com.au to register

This webinar is for mums who are adjusting to motherhood for the first time (or even second or third time around!). It can be a big transition moving from work into motherhood and sometimes the experience of having a new baby is overwhelming. Postnatal depression is more common than people think and affects 16% of Australian women in the first year. This session will be interactive and provide opportunities for women to share their experiences, if they wish to. Strategies for coping will be discussed in detail. It will be facilitated by Dr Mataji Kennedy, a Clinical Psychologist who specialises in helping women transition into motherhood.

Webinar 2: TechTalk

Time: 8.00pm-9.00pm | Date: Wednesday 9 June 2010 | Cost: $49

TechTalk – Love it or hate it, technology is here to stay! In this 60 minute, unplugged TechTalk class, you’ll learn about current technologies used in business today. Learn about Facebook, the web, online marketing, blogs, VOIP, remote set-up, LinkedIn, YouTube, podcasts, twitter, RSS, Microsoft Office, Goggle Docs and more.

As part of our updated TechTalk series we will also be looking at how to setup your Facebook profile to keep your personal information private.

To register for this webinar: http://inspecht.com.au/store/products/CareerMums-TechTalks-%252d-9-June-2010-Evening-Session!.html